The Doorway
I woke up different on a cold winter day, nearly two years ago.
I moved slowly out of bed and toward the bathroom mirror. I’m not sure what I was expecting, but the same brown eyes stared back at me.
Nothing had changed on the surface, but everything underneath had.
I wish I could point to a catalyst — a crisis, a revelation, a moment of clarity. But there wasn’t one. I simply woke up different.
I couldn’t have named it then, but all the small moments I’d been ignoring had been accumulating in my body: every time I held back an idea in a meeting, every time I felt a flicker of creativity and turned away from it, every time I opened my document titled “Ideas” only to close it again soon after.
They had been adding up. And that morning, they finally exceeded some invisible threshold. Something in me had moved ahead without waiting for permission.
I felt hungry. I had this sudden, ravenous desire for more. Not more things, not more success, but more aliveness. More meaning.
My twins were three. For the past few years, I’d been immersed in books about childhood development — the predictable stages, the regressions, the overnight leaps. I knew that when they suddenly refused foods they’d always eaten, or threw multiple tantrums for no clear reason, it often meant they were on the edge of some developmental shift. Their inner world was reorganizing. They were growing into someone slightly new.
I’d learned to hold that space for them. To not panic when they regressed. To trust the process.
But that morning, staring at my own reflection, I had a jarring thought: What if this is what’s happening to me?
What if adults go through stages too — clear ones, disruptive ones — and we just don’t talk about them that way?
I could feel it clearly: I’d outgrown something. Something in me demanded I change.
Change what? I didn’t know. How much change? I couldn’t tell.
But the pull was undeniable.
Ignoring it would have been easier. Much easier. But I knew — in that deep, intuitive way you know certain things — that doing so would come at a cost I wasn’t willing to pay.
I was standing at a threshold. So I stepped closer.
I started reading about adult development that week. What I found was so obvious, and yet it felt like a revelation.
Adults move through stages too. And we rarely name them as such.
Having language for this was both empowering and sobering. Empowering because I wasn’t alone or broken. Sobering because I could suddenly see how many people live their entire lives feeling this call and shut the door because they don’t have the space, the language, the support, or the permission to answer it.
I was thirty-seven. Motherhood had reshaped me completely. Work no longer challenged me. The momentum that once carried me forward had gone quiet.
Nothing was falling apart. But my body had started to feel wrong inside my life.
Not wrong like sick. Wrong like wearing clothes that used to fit perfectly but now pulled in strange places. I’d sit in meetings and feel restless — not bored exactly, but like I was supposed to be somewhere else doing something else, except I had no idea what or where. I’d be cooking dinner, following the same reliable recipe, and feel this inexplicable urgency rise in my chest. For what? I couldn’t say.
It was like growing out of shoes as a child. One day, they fit. The next day, they’re tight. You can still walk in them. But every step reminds you: these don’t fit anymore.
My life had begun to feel smaller than the person I was becoming.
And with that realization came guilt. Who was I to feel restless? Who was I to want something I couldn’t even name?
So I did what many of us do: I tried to talk myself out of it. I made mental lists of my privileges. I reminded myself that most people would be grateful for what I had. I told myself to be content.
But gratitude and hunger aren’t opposites. I know now that you can be deeply thankful for your life and still feel the pull toward something more. That’s not ingratitude.
But the guilt was also comfortable. It felt good to give in to it—safe, even. It kept me stuck far longer than the confusion did.
The tension persisted, caught between having a life that worked and wanting one that felt alive.
This in-between space — disorienting, half-formed — is one of the least discussed parts of adult life. Most of us move through it without language, without witnesses, without enough patience for ourselves. We’re quick to diagnose it, fix it, optimize it—anything to rush past the discomfort.
But it is not a crisis. It’s an invitation. Not to abandon what you’ve built or to manufacture reinvention. But to pause long enough to hear what’s asking for attention. To let new questions surface before rushing toward answers.
This is the space where you try on new ways of thinking. Where you test new identities, new perspectives. Where you gather language for what’s emerging and find others who recognize the hum you’re feeling.
I’ve been in this space for nearly two years now. Some days I have more clarity. Some days I have less. But I’m learning that the doorway itself — this uncertain, uncomfortable threshold — is not something to rush through.
It’s something to inhabit.
Because on the other side isn’t a fixed destination. It’s a more spacious version of the life you’re already living. One that has room for both who you’ve been and who you’re becoming.
If you’re here, you might recognize this low, steady hum. The sense that something has shifted, even if nothing looks different yet. The feeling that staying exactly where you are will cost something, even if leaving feels undefined.
You might be standing at your own doorway, wondering whether to step closer or quietly turn away.
I can’t tell you what to do.
But I can tell you this: the feeling itself is worth listening to.
This isn’t the destination.
It’s the doorway.



What a beautiful truth and putting it in writing. It can be a challenging moment, not to put one’s finger on what ‘is needed’ as it is sitting in the unknown and listening to life without jumping in to taking charge (as there is no answer). I had various of those moments, it feels like re-invention, expansion and re-calibrating the compass towards authenticity, a constant unravelling - a stumbling and the adventure of life in itself. Beautiful project ahead - the journey of discovery whilst by the looks of it building something new as well.
So happy to see Project Recharge entering the world!